Sunday, September 19, 2010

Nursery Woes

Okay, to all you parents of nursery aged toddlers, or just anyone who has advice in general. I need help. Tayden is old enough to go to nursery and has gone the past 3 weeks. Here has been the experience thus far:

Week 1-Scott took him the stayed with him the first hour. Then, I came so Scott could get to his class. I stayed about 10 minutes and slipped out the door while Tayden was busy. He stayed the rest of the time. It was wonderful.

Week 2- Scott took him, dropped him off and let him cry. Tayden made through the first hour and about 15 minutes into the second block before they brought him into us. It was good.

Week 3-I took him and the minute we walked in the door he started crying. Sobbing actually. I stayed with him for about an hour, then we both had to leave due to his hysteria. I think today had to do more with the fact that Scott took Tayden ALL day yesterday and let me partake in girls weekend. (Which by the way was AMAZING...thanks love.) So he hasn't really let me out of his sight for longer than a minute or two.

Anyway, I need help. If we let him just cry every time will he get over it or will it just provoke negative feelings? Should we stay with him for a few weeks to help him adjust? What do I do? I need some advice!

7 comments:

Merrill Clan said...

My advice as far as nursery...considering I have been nursery leader for over a year and they are never releasing him. First, don't stay!!!! He won't adjust if you don't. He will always think you are going to be there if he throws a fit. Trust your nursery leaders. If they can't handle it they will come find you I promise. Second, maybe have one of the nursery leaders babysit one time for you so Tayden knows someone in there. These are two of the things I do with parents and it seems to have worked. Mind you we have 25 kids in our nursery right now. Good luck!!!!

sam and kyrsten said...

sorry no advice here. but i had a girls weekend this weekend too. must be the season. you have an adorable family. good luck with nursery!

jensens said...

sorry stace, but i agree with annie. i say sorry because it's going to be tough. he will cry. but it's just like cry therapy for sleeping. it's hardest the first time and gets better each time after that. my other advice is to not sneak out. i would get down on his level and tell him you will come back. that way he doesn't feel abandoned or lost. good luck! this weekend was absolutely a blast. love ya bunches.

Lisa said...

As a nursery leader - ASK your nursery leaders!!! If they are ok with him crying (I am) then let him cry and leave immediately. If not, then stick around until he is occupied - THEN try sneaking out when he isn't looking. Also - make it a routine. If Scott took him for 2 weeks in a row and he did better than the week you took him - then let Scott take him every week. As far as I have seen - dads seem to do better dropping toddlers off because the toddlers are used to daddy leaving for work and so don't get so upset over him leaving - they know he will be back like he is every day.
Good luck. I know it is so hard on moms! But you deserve the break before your new baby comes and takes all of your church time away again!

Collin, Traci, Cam, and Alyssa said...

I've never been a nursery leader, so I don't have that perspective, but I do have a little boy who has put me through the same thing. My opinion is to do whatever you feel comfortable with as a mom and what you think will work best for Tayden. Personally, I don't feel comfortable with leaving my little boy sobbing in nursery and I don't see the point in it if I could just stay with him (our nursery leaders have asked us to stay if our kids are upset, so I guess it depends on your leaders to.) I also know my little boy, he takes a long time to feel comfortable in a new environment, and he's incredibly stubborn so if he decides he doesn't want to be there he will scream the whole time. It took Cam awhile but once he got to know his leaders and the other kids he started happily waving goodbye to us. Also, Tayden is still really little, I don't think Cam started consistently enjoying nursery until he was 2. Good luck!

~Mrs. Floto~ said...

Stacey, I agree with the Merrill clan. I would do a little talking throughout the week with him about going to nursery and how wonderful it will be there. Then as sunday rolls around talk with him about going in and not crying. I like the idea of him getting to know one of the leaders. sounds good! Make there be a reward for not crying while being in nursey, like a treat. Praise him for doing a good job in there and let him know he is a big boy!After a few weeks he will get used to it. He may not be happy but will go without crying for sure! ITs going to be tough! Good luck!

Echo said...

You know me...tough love.